Friend Wants Me To Photograph Wedding

By | 29/10/2022


One of the more common questions that I become is from friends who are torn about whether or not they should hire me to photograph their wedding.

They love my work, they dearest me, but considering I’g a friend they also desire me to exist a part of the wedding and savour myself (which I totally appreciate) so they aren’t sure what the etiquette is for having your friend photo your wedding.

I figured a lot of you lot might have a like situation and that I throw in my two cents on the topic.


{Disclaimer: when I say “should you lot have your friend photo your wedding” I’m referring to if yous have a friend who is a professional person lensman and yous already know and love their piece of work. I am non talking nearly “I have a friend with a overnice photographic camera to have some pretty pictures of her dog sometimes.”  Information technology is still very of import to hire a professional to capture your nuptials 24-hour interval!  Y’all can read about how to choose a photographer for your rustic wedding in this article.}

So back to the question at mitt, should you lot have a friend photograph your wedding?

The final answer ultimately has to come down to trusting your intuition.  Yous accept to be comfy with your decision or it will merely add together stress to your wedding ceremony day.

Here are a few points to consider while you make your choice.

Don’t feel obligated

Outset and foremost, don’t feel obligated to hire your friend simply because they’re your friend.  If they practise not shoot weddings in the way that you prefer, or if you’re merely not that crazy well-nigh their work, ultimately it’s your nuptials day and your friend volition want you to go the photos that y’all desire for your big issue.

This can be a catchy situation to navigate especially if yous accept more than than one close friend who is a professional photographer.  The all-time way to go about information technology is to simply be open and honest with your friends and if they don’t shoot in the style that you prefer ask them for referrals.  They will know other photographers who shoot other styles and I’yard sure they’d be more than happy to brand recommendations.

Prove your appreciation

You are one of your friends biggest fans.  Y’all are always sharing their work on social media – liking their posts, telling them how bully you think they are –  which is awesome, just yous tin ask any creative person and they will tell you the best style to show someone involved in a creative field that you appreciate their work is to put your money where your oral fissure is. (Check out this groovy article by David DuChemin that articulates this beautifully.)


Artists are creators by nature and they dearest to make people happy.  If it were up to most of us nosotros would create things just to create something and not even worry nearly getting paid. The unfortunate reality is that to run a business, bills got to get paid.

By choosing to hire your friend you are supporting them in multiple ways and showing that you really do honey and appreciate their piece of work.

Reduce stress on your nuptials day

Your wedding ceremony day is similar a cyclone.  It is full of things that demand to exist done, people you need to greet, and places yous need to be – usually on a very specific timetable.

You are commonly pretty vulnerable on your wedding mean solar day, peculiarly when you lot call up about stripping downwardly to your spanks to put on your wedding ceremony wearing apparel.


Is this actually a time yous want a consummate stranger hanging out the room with yous?

Past having a friend there to photo you’re getting gear up and your wedding yous have someone yous’re already comfortable with and who already understands you helping to make the process go equally smoothly as possible.  This lowers your stress and makes your day that much easier and more enjoyable.

Spend quality time together

Ane of the major concerns that I have heard from friends is that they won’t become to spend any time with the people they care well-nigh on their wedding ceremony solar day.

It’due south a busy twenty-four hours with a lot of people to come across and it tin can exist hard to get quality fourth dimension with all the people you care most.


When I photograph a friends nuptials, I am probably the person she spends the near time with.

This takes an event that can otherwise be stressful and essentially turns information technology into hanging out with your friend all 24-hour interval and we just happen to accept some pictures now and and then.

Accept your photographer contract the second shooter

Whenever I photo a good friend’s wedding, a great compromise for me being able to photograph the hymeneals and savour myself as a guest is to hire a 2d shooter for the reception.

This allows you to get my perspective and my creative eye during the details, the ceremony, and the portraits and still allows me to enjoy myself as a guest at the reception without having to sacrifice having full coverage of the wedding ceremony day.


Sometimes I will step in and photograph events like the first dance or the cake cutting, and sometimes I volition exit the reception completely to my second shooter.

Much of this is a preference of the bride and groom and you should exist sure to talk over your expectations with the photographer prior to the event to make sure yous guys are on the aforementioned folio.

Get information technology in writing

If you do make the determination to have your friend photograph your wedding exist sure for the sake of your friendship that you sign a contract.

Make sure yous not merely sign the contract, just yous actually read and understand the contract fully.  If y’all have whatever questions nearly what is included, what is not included, and the services or products that you will be receiving ask!  Exist sure that you are 100% clear on both of your sets of expectations earlier the hymeneals.

Miscommunications can lead to hurt feelings and strain friendships but with clear advice prior to the result you should be able to take an enjoyable and stress-free hymeneals mean solar day.

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{photos in this mail service were taken while second shooting for Candice Adelle Photography}